lalalalalala asked:
i met a man from the lebanon. we are very in love. he is living in lebanon and i live in ireland. we want to get married but converting to eachothers religions is the LAST resort for either of us. how are we going to do this? where could we marry? anyone out there have any advice?. i really appreciate it!!! peace
sorry i forgot to mention that we plan on living in ireland together, settling here and having a family!
A Muslim man can marry a Christian or a Jewish woman.
if you go to live with him I am afraid you will be put under very much pressure to convert . I would suggest you visit and then see how you would feel he will never convert you must accept that you would live under Islam read the quran is my suggestion.
Neither of your faiths will recognize the marriage as valid if one doesn’t convert to the other’s religion.
You could get married in a civil, not religious, ceremony, but again neither religion will recognize it.
The other thing you should think very strongly about is what faith you will raise your children in. Again, both religions require that you promise to raise the children in that faith.
That decision (how to raise your children) is the rock that most interfaith marriages founder upon.
Yes it is fine sis
A Muslim man can marry a Irish Catholic woman. Personally, I would rather him marrying a religious Catholic lady than any other sect because I find Catholics very much similar when it comes to discipline etc….
The children have to be raised as Muslims though, bear that in mind…
Take in mind that generally Lebanese people are not too strict. This is why you find it rare for a woman in Lebanon to wear a hijab/headscarf.
There is a lady I know who lives next to us and her mother is Lebanese and her father is English and Mash’Allah i love them so much they are so respectable. And then she married a Syrian man and they lived in Egypt and now her daughter has married an English man. So their family is very mixed with Arabs and English.
You could marry in any sort of building but you would not be able to marry in a church and you won’t be having something called ‘vows’. Something similar to that though.
You have to engage him first though, or make some kind of meeting with each other’s families to plan a wedding. If he engages with you, you can talk to each other on the mobile phone and chat for as long as you want.
Its really nice, I am not sure about the Lebanese culture, but in our culture we have about a week of a wedding. First day is the day where you meet the husband’s family, only your close family have to be invited, or very very close friends. And then the next day we have the day of Henna, where all your family and friends have to meet the husband’s family and friends but your family have to wear traditional clothing and your mother has to put Henna on you and decorate you (you can just put it on the night before). And the third day is where alllll the husband’s family visits your family and you all meet up in a building or a large house like a party and its considered as the ‘main’ day of the wedding. At the end of that day the man (your husband) can come inside and you do the ring swapping and take photos and start talking to him. He will take you to you and his’s new home.
Bear in mind that you are not going to see your house until the day where he takes you to your new house. You get tonnes and tonnes of presents and your house would be already set up by his family and your family all ready for you.
Edit: Sure there is nothing wrong with settling in Ireland, but its up to both of you. But visiting Lebanon now and then would be so much fun! its beautiful trust me
Good luck!!
Find common ground.
The Catholics, Protestants, and Muslims all read the Psalms of David. In the Catholic version of the Bible they are numbered slightly differently than in the Protestant Bible (of various translations, one of which is called the King James Bible an has been used for centuries prior to the more modern translations.
Here is one verse from the Psalms:
Psalm Chapter 34 verse 14 (King James Version)
Depart from evil, and do good; seek peace, and pursue it.
Psalm 34:14
The numbering of the Psalms will be a bit off from this notation in the Catholic Bible but you will find this verse nearby in parts of the Book of Psalms the numbing of chapters is off by one compared to the King James Bible but the text is very much the same (with slight variations due to different translations).
Find a church or a group ( sometimes people meet independent to study religious issues and are not specifically associated with a denomination).
You can go to the town clerk, city clerk, and the justice of the peace to be married, you do not have to have the sanction of some religious organizations.
As long as God approves of what you are doing, you are OK for now. Work out the details later. (See Psalms 34:14 (King James Version) above.)