kati asked:

I have been married for almost 3 yrs – And never taken a summer vacation alone w/ my husband. My mother in law lives in Lebanon, stays in Paris every summer. She says she can not be alone, travel alone and demands my husband to stay with her. When we visit her, we have to follow her where ever she wants to go – go home when she wants – go to sleep when she goes to sleep. Otherwise she gets mad. The first year of our marriage I really didn’t believe how serious this could be. Second year of our marriage her husband passed away. So out of kindness I stayed with her in Paris the entire summer and she treated me badly. I took her to US to stay with us for 3 months as my husband wished. She was rude – He was rude. we didn’t have one hour for our self. We almost got divorce. Last summer I was pregnant and I refused to go. My husband wants me to tell him what I want to do: Stay in US with baby Or go with him for 3 weeks. And be alone with MIL for a week while he attends seminars

bayabyyy asked:

We have been together for a year and 8 months. When I met him he was on a visa and getting a refugee status where he can stay. He had a job ect and was making ok money but he has no car. We are both arabic and in our culture we marry faster than other cultures. Anyways he met me when i got out of a bad divorce and was there for me emotionally ect., he was very sweet and good to me. I wasnt perfect I was still emotionally stressed and didnt see him alot whenever he wanted me to come by, i ignored his calls ect. Eventually after 5 mo weslept togtehr… i started become attached and fell in love w him. After awhile he started making friends and wasnt calling as much… dissapearing… hiding his phn ect. Then 8 mo ago his status changed he missed an apt and now his staus changd, we talked abt marriage b4 this but he asked me if his situation got bad would i marry him so we could stay and be togtehr, I told him i would…but. the past 5 mo he spent all his tme w his friends… whenever i saw him shuts off his phn or hides his work phn all this bs. we startd seeing each other 1 evry 2 weeks,,,I left town to lebanon for vacation 1 mo i tld myself its over. I came back and now he wana see me everyday and he regrets how he treated me, we used to be together evrday and then he chose hs friends and started cursing me saying i have 6 mo left here and u lied u said ud marry me. So he srated ignoring me…cursing me… threatining me. In person he wouldnt he would hug me saying hes just mad that he loves me and i wont marry him. he sais he wants to build a future, have kids and he loves me more than anything and he made mistakes being with his friends… but after i left overseas he thought he lost me and he wants to marry in american so he can work and take care of me… he now sees me everyday and sais ***** his friends he sais he loves me. I dnt know what to do he has 2 mo befire he gets deported and we fight alot and he curses me ont he phn because i dont give him an answer if illmarry him. he asks so ure going to wait till im on the plane and ull tell me? he sais he coudl have married someone else for papers but he loved me and i screwed him over! what do i do?? help